So I've been thinking about this...

"For those of you unaware, my father passed away back in 2000 of cancer. I'm mentioning this because my mom is getting remarried this Saturday.
I haven't had a problem with her dating again, and I have no problems with the guy she has now decided to get married to.
What occured to me a bit back and has been idily bugging me since is not her relationship or any aspect of it, but rather an issue of assumptions. Should I mention in a conversation my mom's fiancee, or her upcoming wedding people are most liekyl to assyume that the reason she is getting married again is that my parents have gotten divorced. This seems somehow unfair to the memory of my father.
Once again thsi is not about my mom and her relationship, but about the assumptions in our society. I really don't know how to go about trying to avoid this issue, aside from mentioning my late father very often, or using phrases like 'my widowed mother' which are just ackward.
*shrug*
I know it's not important, but it does give me an odd twinge from time to time."

Note to self:

"Update your damn website Pix. It's been six months. You have content and a net connection. You have no decent excuse."