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one minor flaw in the LJ concept
May. 6th, 2003 03:10 pm"I was thinking recently that I had gotten to be a much harsher person that I am more likely to lash out at people.
Then I realized that while in some ways that might be true, that hte specific instances I was thinking of did not match up to my general life.
What I have been really snide and snarky to lately are strangers who comment in my LJ. The one problem with having an LJ and making basicly no friends-only post is that almost anyone can pop in and comment on your life.
Lately I have been making more introspective or thoughtful posts, and I have gotten replies to them that drive me up the wall.
And it mostly isn't friends or even aquaintances whom have either known me or been reading my LJ for a while. It's mostly from people who either barely know me or don't know me from adams cat. They bop into my LJ and start making grand declarations on what I should do or how I should think, or correct me on how I am.
From friends or folx who have known me fairl long (in RL or on LJ) I can accept this stuff fairly well,as I figure they know me well enough to comment. Even if it is way off base I can take it as them no quite understanding some aspect of me. But when a almost or total stranger comes in and begins declaring on my life, especially if they make it very clear they know nothing about me or my life, that dries me nuts.
I get really bent out of shape really quickly and will almost immedaitaly leap upon them and begin tearing apart their statemetns and shoving in their face exactly how foolish they are being.
I feel slightly bad about it, but not much. If they bothered to read my LJ for a while and get a feel for me this wouldn't happen. Or if they were considerate enough to not assume they knew who I was and how I thought this same problem would not arise.
Ah well, no medium is perfect, and I do have to admit it does feel good to occasionally rip into someone who deserves it."
Then I realized that while in some ways that might be true, that hte specific instances I was thinking of did not match up to my general life.
What I have been really snide and snarky to lately are strangers who comment in my LJ. The one problem with having an LJ and making basicly no friends-only post is that almost anyone can pop in and comment on your life.
Lately I have been making more introspective or thoughtful posts, and I have gotten replies to them that drive me up the wall.
And it mostly isn't friends or even aquaintances whom have either known me or been reading my LJ for a while. It's mostly from people who either barely know me or don't know me from adams cat. They bop into my LJ and start making grand declarations on what I should do or how I should think, or correct me on how I am.
From friends or folx who have known me fairl long (in RL or on LJ) I can accept this stuff fairly well,as I figure they know me well enough to comment. Even if it is way off base I can take it as them no quite understanding some aspect of me. But when a almost or total stranger comes in and begins declaring on my life, especially if they make it very clear they know nothing about me or my life, that dries me nuts.
I get really bent out of shape really quickly and will almost immedaitaly leap upon them and begin tearing apart their statemetns and shoving in their face exactly how foolish they are being.
I feel slightly bad about it, but not much. If they bothered to read my LJ for a while and get a feel for me this wouldn't happen. Or if they were considerate enough to not assume they knew who I was and how I thought this same problem would not arise.
Ah well, no medium is perfect, and I do have to admit it does feel good to occasionally rip into someone who deserves it."
