clockworkpixel | Hipocrisy and the family homestead.

"So I have been mentioning in passing to my mom for at least the last two weeks that Carol was goign to be visiting this weekend. Dropping reminders and working it into conversation and such to be sure she is aware and that it doesn't take her by surprise. I figured this would be only polite.
WellTuesday I said something about when Carol was getting in (very late) and my mom responded in a surprised manner. When I asked why she was surprised she told me in a very stiff manner 'I didn't realize she was staying here.' When I confirmed that Carol was mom then added in a stiff and snide tone 'Well I won't say anything...' with the inflection making clear she had volumes she wanted to say on the subject.

In the interest of taking the high road I didn't confront her on her hipocrisy. I didn't mention the fact that her boyfriend regulalry spends the night here almost never with mom telling sis and I ahead of time. Often the only reason I know he his here is because his stuff is on the kitchen table and his shaving kit is in the bathroom.
And yet my letting mom know as far in advance as possible every time I'm having someone over doesn't count for anything. She's not even going to be here this weekend.

To top it off, the night after this discussion her b/f spent the night here and once again I had no idea except that his crap was on the table.

*sigh* And if I had confronted her I would have gotten this long speech about how it's her house and she pays the taxes and all so she has the right to have guests while I shouldn't.
INterestingly enough it is always her house, and her kitchen and her dishwasher and everything else. The only time anything is not hers is when she wants me to clean my room, the rest of the time that room is simply 'the attic'. It is almost never simply the house, or our house, dispite the fact that my sis and I clean the bathrooms, wash and vacuum the floors, mow the lawn, and shovel the driveway. It also doesn't matter that I'm the one who has taken over all the repair jobs around the house since my dad passed away. It is still her house, and my sis and I just live here. [extreme sarcasm] Really makes it feel like a home [/extreme sarcasm]

And yet she has wondered why I hide out in my room, and why whenever I have a chance to I spend my time and my nights somewhere else."