Partner anti-wish list (or, ways to make me run screaming)

[clockworkpixel]

"Ok, so it seems like bunches of my friends are making these lists, so I figured I would.
These are some of there things that I don't want in a relationship, or are likely to cause me to end a relationship.

• 1. Doesn't communicate. I mainly mean people who actively don't communicate, as in they think something is up/going on/wrong/etc. or that I'm mad at them, and they don't ask me about it. I'm not the best at communication, but try my best to at least ask if I think something is up, or tell someone if something they are doing is bother/affecting/worrying me.
  
• 2. Worries what other people/the neighbors might think or them. In other words, overly edits/censored their life/actions/speach for fear of what other people will think of them.
  
• 3. Lies. I don't mean I want a partner who is 100% honest 100% of the time (if nothing else because i can't manage that). What I mean is a partner that lies about either big important shit, or lies when there is no reason to (the real answer won't bother me or doesn't affect me in any way). In other words I prefer a relationship in which the people involved are overall honest about the relationship nad their feelings towards the other ppl in it.
  
• 4. Is a health nut, Vegan, or political vegitarian. In other words someone for whom the food they eat is always a big important thing and consumes large amounts of their thoughts. I have times when I think a lot about what I'm going to eat, I have other times when food is purely a necessary evil so i have the fuel to go on with what I was doing. Having dietary restrictions for medical reasons doesn't fall under this (I'm lactose intolerant myself), also people who don't eat something for some personal reason and only inform people of it if it is relevant is fine. What I can't stand is people who go on at great length about how they 'don't eat foo because it's horribly unhealthy.' or 'how can you eat bar? don't you know eating meat is horribly evil and cruel?(This tends to degenerate into a recitation of the inhuman conditions present in farms or meat processing plants or some such. And almost exclusively they've gotten their info from PETA or some such and never bothered to actually research the facts).
  
• 5. Doesn't read. I just don't understand people who don't read. (and by 'read' I mean 'actual books of over 200 pages that don't have lots of pictures')
  
• 6. Doesn't understand the concept of keeping living spaces at least hygienic. This means washing dirty dishes within a reasonable amount of time, and not using the sink as a garbage can.
  

Well that was a less then fun trip down memory lane. I may add to this if I come up with any others.
The good list is coming next."

Comments

[rosefox]

After reading both your lists, I find myself highly amused by the irony that we'd probably be perfect partners if there were any actual romance or serious attraction involved. *grin*

But that's what makes us such good friends, I suppose. (Have I mentioned lately how much I miss you? I miss you. A lot.)

[lara7.livejournal.com]

1. Doesn't communicate. I mainly mean people who actively don't communicate,

nope. If anything; I'm the queen of TMI, whether its self disclosure, or letting someone know when I'm upset/uneasy.

2. Worries what other people/the neighbors might think or them.

nope. my parents, maybe (and boy, I sure hope my mom doesn't get net savvy anytime soon and track down my LJ), my coworkers, a little, but that's about it, and those two are more about self-preservation than propriety.

3. Lies.... the people involved are overall honest about the relationship
haha..you've just hit on my biggest peeve. I actually "broke up" with a platonic friend because of her incessant need to tell one-upmanship tall tales about her life.

4. Is a health nut...What I can't stand is people who go on at great length about how they 'don't eat foo because it's horribly unhealthy.' or 'how can you eat bar?

Exactly! I get this all the time whenever I mention my interest in cannibalism.

5. Doesn't read.
{/understatement} not a problem. I read in the car (audiobooks), at the gym, over breakfast, before sleep....I carry a book with me almost everywhere I go, with one in the car for good measure. Being stuck somewhere without reading material is almost a fate worse than death.

6. Doesn't understand the concept of keeping living spaces at least hygienic.

see my list, re: toilet brush. If my cats, who have a brain the size of a fist, can keep themselves clean and remember to bathe daily, so can an adult male. I like to think that if my cats wore socks or ate off plates, they wouldn't stack each next to the couch for 5 hour periods so that other people in the house could "enjoy" the aroma.

wow, you only have 6 bad things listed, compared to 10 good things! dunno if that "means" anything or not...

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

1. Doesn't communicate.
Strangely, my most recent performance review marked me a low on communication. I tend to think I communicate a lot. But, like everyone else, I fuck up sometimes. Working on it.

2. Worries what other people/the neighbors might think or them.
I *wonder* what people think... I amuse myself contemplating the possibilities of what they must think. but worry? um, no. Unless we are talking about friends of mine - I do worry about giving friends the wrong ideas sometimes.

3. Lies.
I think I'm a truth addict. I think I have failed this in the opposite direction with some people (though not you).

4. Is a health nut, Vegan, or political vegitarian.
scarring childhood experiences with such a person have made me hate food. I will never be able to be one of these.

5. Doesn't read.
this is the only one I probably really fail on. I go through cycles of reading and not reading. I do feel like there are only so many interesting plots in the world and that I have read most of them. I spent a lot of my high school years reading a lot and so to some extent I associate reading with being lonely and trying to escape from that. It takes a lot to inspire me to read now. But once inspired I will devour a book if I don't hold myself back. And I fear that. I'm more into movies lately because when the plot is lame there is still all this beautiful imagery... and I'm a very visual person. And right now I'm back in one of my practical phases, where I am reading but to learn instead of purely to absorb. I'm learning about bodywork, which satisfies my internal engineer because it is practical. (nevermind that the 'practical' use is to restore and artcar my classic cadillac - my engineer just likes DOING and ACCOMPLISHING things.)

6. Doesn't understand the concept of keeping living spaces at least hygienic.
it is a constant battle, but I more fail on the MESSY than the GROSS AND DIRTY side.